A Bit More About MeI have led an interesting life and have faced some challenges along the way - But all my life experiences have only made me the strong independent person I am today 💜
I am a single mum of my fabulous little boy Daniel - well not so little a 14 year old taller than me little boy!! To me he is my amazing, funny, intelligent, interesting little man xx I was brought up by my little Mum - yes I use the word little a lot but she is little (4ft 11inch) to be precise! As a single Mum I'm sure me and my big brother Neil gave her some challenges along the way. But it was our life and was filled with lots of love from my (little) Mum and my Nan and Grandad who were both a big part of our lives. The challenge for me as a little girl and in later life was my Dad, who was absent for most of it, but for such an absent Dad he had a big influence on my life, mostly negative : ( My struggles and experiences as a little girl and growing up little did I know at the time were guiding me into the work I do today - especially my work with young people 💛 Loss is something that we all experience in our lives and over the last ten years I have experienced 3 big losses xxx My Dad was an alcoholic and drifted in and out of my life. Coming and going as the lost soul that he was. His drinking taking priority in his life and anything else came second including his relationships with his children. The influence this had on me growing up as a young girl was a continual roller coaster of emotions including anger, sadness and loss. Impacting on my relationships with friends and later on in life having a negative effect with the partners I chose - being mainly men who drank and ones who didn't have much respect for women!! I can truly say that my life story has enabled me to do what I do today as a therapist working with both adults and young people. I have grown over time to being quite a spiritual person, being able to connect with the people I work with on lots of different levels. As I touched on before, part of my emotional challenges have been losses xxx The first was my Grandad whom was and still is my strength and inspiration for lots of things in my life. The next was my (little) :) Nan who had been married to my Grandad for 60 years. My Grandad having a massive stroke on their 60th Wedding Anniversary : ( my Nan never the same after that day and developed Alzheimer and passed away 5 years later 💜 Both being very strong characters x And both missed so very very much xx My Grandad's passing was a massive shock not only to me but all our family. My journey healing from his loss has also helped me with working with people who have also experienced losses and the emotional waves that come with the grieving process. My Nan's passing not being any easier just somewhat a very different emotional healing process 💛 On December 27th 2015 my Dad passed away. After battling with Korsakoff Sydrome - (A form of dementia) caused by alcoholism, and finally passing with a short battle with cancer x 💜 This for me so far has been a very strange healing process. Bringing up lot's of emotions from the past and reflecting on his absence in my life and my relationship with him. A tough start to this year and a tough old 8 months but now part of my reasons to start my blog. Feeling stronger now and able to show a little bit of me through writing to hopefully help others in becoming stronger and understanding their life challenge to 💜 💜 |